Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Odds Oddities

Many times over the course of our infertility journey we found ourselves on the short side, or wrong side, of the odds. First of all, to even be diagnosed and have to deal with infertility in the first place, put us on the short side of the odds. Then, to wind up with unexplained infertility was again an example of the short side of the odds. Throughout every single type of treatment I endured the odds were against me. The odds were against me that I would ever get pregnant in the first place.

But I did, and it finally seemed that I beat the odds. In fact, after the heartbeat was found I was finally on the good side of the odds, for the first time throughout the journey. Obviously, that was a short lived journey to the right side of the odds.

Odds were against us for getting chosen so quickly for Andrew, but we did, thankfully.

And now a study comes out showing that those who suffer miscarriage, stillbirth and infant death are more likely to divorce. Again, the odds are against us. I've seen many marriages suffer and fail as a result of infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth and infant death, and I've always been so sad for those people to have to suffer yet one more loss.

But us? This was one time where despite the odds against us we have come out the other side even better than before. And this isn't really fair either, since many of those who didn't have things work out may be far more deserving than us. But I'm most thankful, blessed, and exceptionally lucky.


  1. I am glad you have beat the odds!!! And the awesome little sweetie pie is just the icing on the cake!!! SAM

  2. Marriage is hard enough without all the struggles of infertility too. Congrats on beating the odds!

  3. Ditto what Suzy said...

    YAY for a good marriage! (and that cutie Andrew!)

  4. It amazes me every day that with all the crap Aaron and I have been through, we seem STRONGER. I've watched a marraige breakup because their son was diagnosed with autism. I couldnt' belive the things they said to/about each other - that they didn't pull together to make things better.

    We are very lucky women!

  5. Anonymous8:57 PM

    I have a girlfriend who lost a baby right after birth and she posted the article of fb recently. I wasn't shocked, but found it interesting. Glad you guys have beat the odds.