Saturday, April 17, 2010

How Far We've Come

Forgive me for getting a little sentimental here . . .

In June of 2007 I was in a horrible place. Over the previous year we had received our diagnosis of unexplained infertility, spent thousands on unsuccessful treatments, had a surprise pregnancy, heartbreaking miscarriage, and surgery. Also, my dad had suffered his accident and spinal cord injury. So, by June I just didn't know where to turn anymore. I was still so lonely here in Arizona and felt that absolutely nobody really understood what was happening here. I reached out to Resolve, and found that a support group was just starting, that very week, in fact. In a huge step outside of my comfort zone, I went. And I've never regretted it.

Within a very short time there was a group of 5 of us girls who were all fighting the same battle, but in very different ways. This group saw me through my unsuccessful IVF, then adoption homestudy and approval, the creation of our profile book, adoption match and placement, another pregnancy, and another miscarriage and surgery. In fact, I was sitting with this very bunch of girls when Brian called to tell me that we had been chosen!

I stopped going to the meetings a few months after my last miscarriage. It was just time to stop. However, I still kept up with my 4 main girls, even though the group had grown much larger, seeing some every once in a while too. And, well, none of us are involved with the Resolve group anymore.

Next weekend will be a very special, celebratory weekend. We are all getting together here at the house, complete with babies (and one baby belly!), for a reunion. I couldn't be more thrilled. We've all come so far, and all of our dreams have been realized.

So, Heather, Tara, Christine and Debby, I just can't wait!


  1. Okay - make me cry why don't you!
    It is actually three years today that I had my Egg retrieval, 25 eggs, 24 fertilized, 2 transfered and 18 viable to freeze.
    I had no one here who understood what we were going through but I didn't really think that I needed anyone until just after 20 weeks I lost the twins.
    I joined Resolve in October 2007 so that I could find support and understanding of our struggles. I found a great group of ladies who not only were supportive but understood heartache, loss, and lonliness.
    This weekend is going to be a wonderful time to catch up.
    I can't wait to see you all again!

  2. Seriously, tears in the eyes over here too! And major goosebumps. I am so thrilled to see you all next weekend, celebrate together and love on all the babies! It's so amazing that we are all finally here at this point in our lives!

  3. Happy for you, Chris. Glad you have found a new place to call "Home". With love...

  4. I get together with one of the girls from my infertlity support group and email another. We have this weird bond I guess.

  5. YAY for IF sisters!

    Thanks for the tears so early in the morn...

  6. Really looking forward to seeing all of you girls too... but in a much happier context! I remember Katy (our group leader) saying "Everyone gets a baby." And not believing it would really happen for me. But it has happened! And not just one baby for me, but two! Adoption is such a blessing. Our stories are all so different, but with the same threads of pain, struggle, and loss woven through them, and the joy of our dreams finally coming true. I think we will all be better moms for having experienced what we did.