Thursday, January 22, 2009

I Want the Fun Firsts Back

It's 5am. At 1am we went to the pediatric urgent care again with Andrew. He was running a fever of 100.7 and completely miserable with his coughing and congestion. By 3am we were back home with more antibiotics and an ear infection and back on the nebulizer a couple of times a day. Andrew has just now gone to sleep, and it's totally fitful. He is so completely tired, but even more completely miserable. I hope he'll sleep for a couple of hours.

I've just finished my sub plans and I'll be taking them over to school in about an hour. Brian will stay home tomorrow. I've backed out of my weekend plans, which means that I won't be going up to Prescott for a girl's weekend of scrapbooking.

For the third time in less than 2 weeks I've been left feeling like crap when asked by a doctor if Andy goes to daycare. Let's just make a giant neon sign pointing to me saying that this is all my fault. I wish it could be another way right now, but that's just not possible after the past couple of years.

I'm trying to take consolation in the fact that by the time Andrew gets to kindergarten he'll have an awesome immune system and won't rack up 40 absences over the course of the school year.

In the meantime, I'm going to just hope for some spitty, slobbery grins later today.


  1. Oh what a bummer. I hope that Andrew gets better soon and you all get some rest.

  2. Sorry he is so sick! I hope he gets better soon. You know, the daycare rap is not totally true. Some kids go to daycare and don't get sick, some kids get sick without being in daycare. It just happens sometimes. Don't feel guilty about it--and you are right--he will have a good immune system! My son barely ever gets sick now--his first year was sickness hell.

  3. Umm, and Andrew will also be socialized and more self sufficient and able to function in the real world by making his needs known and negotiating for what he needs, unlike a lot of the kids in my church who have stay at home mum's and are basket cases. I think, in the end, it will be ok.

    But I sure am sorry he's sick again.

  4. Anonymous9:12 AM

    Sorry he is sick still. Never blame yourself for him going to day care. Guilt is a horrible thing so don't let it control you. Besides I have plenty of guilt for not sending my kids to daycare and socializing them, so it works both ways. Don't feel bad. You just do what you have to do and be happy that he is a happy baby. Besides, my kids were sick all the time as babies too. I hope he gets well soon.


    Laurie D.

  5. Dont feel guilty, u do what you have to do to make a better life for your family. I'm sure some of those very doctors were in daycare... it will make that time you spend with him more treasured.

  6. Anonymous4:32 PM

    [A lurker but never a commenter, I don't think. Got here from LFCA ages ago.]

    Just piping to assure you that daycare makes for amazing immune systems. After about a year of daycare crud (and plenty of opportunities to feel like the crappiest parents ever for sending our little person to daycare), she has had an ironclad immune system. If my memory serves, it's been 13 months (!) since she's been sick at all, and she's still in preschool.

    Sorry that he's sick, though. That sucks. Wishing him a quick recovery!

  7. Don't feel bad about putting him in daycare. You have to do what is best for your family right now.

    As far as daycare causing him to get sick I know a mom who doesn't take her kids anywhere, and they have come down with some of the weirdest illnesses. I think some kids are just more suseptible.

  8. This is NOT your fault! not at all. You just love on him and get himfeeling better. Momie guilt is plagued in EVERYTHING

  9. So sorry he's still feeling crappy! I hope he gets a lot better over the weekend! My boy has a cold too and we went to the doctor today to find out it's just a nasty cold and we have to wait it out. He is also in daycare, but he caught the cold from me! Talk about feeling guilty!
    Hope you have a better weekend than you expect!

  10. On the sick firsts, I don't know what to say but I'm sure it sucks cuz you just want some of the fun stuff back, and want him to not be uncomfortable. But on the daycare thing, you do what you need to do. Don't ever feel bad about that - really. The generation we're in? Most of us can't afford any other situation.

  11. Anonymous10:49 PM

    Oh, it is so hard to see our babies sick! The Mommy guilt is terrible and you'd be feeling it even if he weren't in daycare because you'd be thinking about that woman at the grocery store who touched his hand and whether you should have wiped it off with a baby wipe afterward and that time at the restaurant that he was putting his hands all over the surfaces of the booth or that time he picked up your shoe and put it in his mouth...etc. :) Mommy guilt is unavoidable. I hope it helps to know that we SAHMs aren't exempt from it (and we aren't exempt from the colds, either) I hope your little boy is better fast.

  12. I hope he's doing better! And don't you be so hard on yourself about daycare. You have to do what's best for you guys on the whole. You love Andrew, and he knows it, and that's what counts! :)