Monday, January 28, 2008

Monday Morning Musing

OK, hmmm, where did I leave off. That's right, some random guy in a cowboy hat was walking a steer down the street . . .

And then on Friday I prepped for our last homestudy home visit with the social workers from the adoption agency. I went through and organized our papers again. Yes, I did this several times, each time double checking that I hadn't forgotten something. I reread and revised and reprinted our autobiographies again. I straightened up the house. Our visit went really well. Our social worker just looked through our papers to make sure everything was complete, signed and notarized. Then Brian and I were each interviewed separately. We were brought together again to review the "what happens now" part of the process. And finally, we were given a huge, empty scrapbook and a booklet of instructions of what to include in our profile.

Let me tell you, I'm just slightly overwhelmed by this project. I've done scrapbooking. I've got a room full of stuff. We have plenty of pictures to choose from. And I have no idea where to begin. Or how to write a "Dear Birthmom" letter. Any ideas?

In other weekend events, we did a little babysitting on Saturday afternoon and evening. Our friends wanted to go to a college basketball game sans the little bundle of girliness so we volunteered to watch her. She is 8 months old and we had a great time with her. So did Molly. And she had a great time with Molly.

Yesterday we went to the casino with my parents. What better way to spend a rainy day in the Valley of the Sun? My dad used to really enjoy playing blackjack, but he hasn't done it since his accident. We talked him into it yesterday. I sat with him and placed his bets for him while he did the playing. We started at an empty table with just the dealer, and it was a table of regular height. The dealer told my dad that there was a low blackjack table if he was interested. However, my dad is of the opinion that the players at the low table aren't very good players and that would mess things up for him. His opinion seems to have served him well. At the end of our time he had won about $200.

And so here I am . . . Monday morning. I didn't get called to work today, but I do have tutoring this afternoon. The kitchen has been cleaned, laundry is in process, and I have a few errands to run. All the while mulling over in my brain just how to get started with our profile . . .

Oh, and I'm getting a cold too. Boo.


  1. I am sure you can find sample "dear birthmom" letters online.

    I have seen several different approaches from my days working as an adoption counselor. You never know what a birthmom is going to see that makes her select you.

    I think that whatever you do, you should be honest about your reasons for wanting to be a parent. I think it might be helpful to list the types of things you hope to do with or teach the child. Your profile will also help with that aspect.

    Good luck!

  2. I don't know how we would write a letter either but I think writing an honest letter about who you are and why you want to have kids and what the child's life would look like with you and Brian as parents (ie, friendly dog, loving grandparents,aunts,uncles, and cousins, a safe and warm household, religious upbringing (or not), hockey outings, loving parents and parents who love each other,educational opportunities, etc). A birth mom would see that you would be great parents to her child.

  3. oh, and I forgot to mention: a town where cowboys walk their steers down the street - what birth mom could resist that??

  4. What about including some of your entries - your writing always has grabbed my heart, and it shows some of your journey?

    Anyway, I just know that however you choose to phrase the letter or what pictures you put in that scrapbook, what will leap off the pages is the YOU that we all have grown to love. You will be irresistable!

  5. I just have to say that you're my hero right now!!! I SOOOO want to be where you are in the process. But I'm struggling to get started. I feel like my feet are stuck in the mud.

    I know that you will find the right words to write to the birthmom that looks at your profile. You write so elegantly on your blog, sharing your heart with the world. When she reads your letter she's going to know your heart and what wonderful parents you and Brian will be!!! Much luck to you as you start your scrapbook and letter! It will be wonderful!!!!