Monday, July 02, 2007

Life Doesn't Have to be Perfect to be Wonderful

I have written before about how I am the kind of person that likes to be a planner, likes to have a plan, and even more importantly, likes to have the plan go my way. In many aspects of my life this is a formula that has served me well. It allowed me to finish college, have a career that I loved, buy a condo, pay off debt, plan a wedding, buy a house and move out of state. Not to mention, it helps me to keep the house clean, laundry done, bills paid, and shopping done. The only thing it hasn't gotten me is a baby. Needless to say, this type of personality just doesn't fit with being sub-fertile. But that's OK, because. . .

Life doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful.

We might not have a baby yet, but Brian and I are insanely happy together. We have time to be together and enjoy ourselves. Sometimes we can even be lazy if we feel like it. We might not be able to have kids the way we planned, but one day we will be parents.

Life doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful.

We need to be very careful with our finances, since I'm not working right now. But, we are still able to enjoy sporting events, movies, family and friends.

Life doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful.

We planned our backyard landscaping before knowing much about the Arizona climate and how plants do. Plus, the landscapers were schiesters. Hense, we hate what few plants we have, both the dead and live ones. And, it's not in the finances right now to redo it. But, we have a pool and the water temperature is perfect and we use it almost everyday and it helps keep us comfy when the temperature passes 110 degrees.

Life doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful.

We miss our friends and family in California tremendously, and don't have many friends in Arizona. However, thanks to free long distance calls on cell phones and the internet we are able to keep in touch regularly. Also, we have a large enough home to entertain plenty of houseguests.

Life doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful.

My dad's accident almost a year ago has forever changed our family. My parents don't have the type of retirement they planned for themselves. They don't have the type of retirement we planned for them. My mom is forever tired and overworked and distracted and seldom herself. We can't do enough to make it better. But, my dad is in good health, and most importantly he is still here. He is learning little by little to do little things. We still have hope for more.

Life doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful.

None of the planning in the world will get done or do any good if it isn't already God's plan. He has a plan for us, and much as I would like to know exactly what it is, it doesn't appear likely. I just have to be patient and wait for God's wonderful plan for us, which, by the way, will be perfect since it is God's plan.

Life doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful.


7 comments:

  1. You have such a great attitude. You will be a wonderful mommy!

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  2. I love your attitude! You encouraged me!

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  3. Well said! I have been trying to come up with a similar post, but haven't been able to pull it together. I whole heartedly believe what you are saying about my own life, I just have a very hard time living it. Thanks for saying it so well and being a reminder to enjoy life the way it is.

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  4. Hi Chris,
    Nice post. I met a woman at a party recently and she told me that going through IF treatments was the hardest thing she ever did because it didn't matter how well she did everything, what she gave up (coffee, wine, etc), she still could not get the result she wanted. We can plan, we can try, we can pray but in the end, we just have to see what happens. Take care.
    -Eggedout

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  5. I think I need to remind myself of this from time to time. It is so easy to get caught up in the way things are not going instead of looking at all the blessings I have.

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  6. Anonymous3:21 PM

    What a great attitude to have! I wish I had your strength. What happened with your dad?

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  7. Anonymous7:39 AM

    I read about your dad and I just wanted to say that I am glad he is doing better. I can see now where you get your strength from!

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