I spoke with our social worker again today and she had quite a bit of encouraging news for us. She was with our birth family for some time today. Basically, she told me that she hasn't ever seen such a good situation as this one and a birth family that is so together. Our birth mom came out and told her today that she doesn't view the baby as her baby, but rather as our baby. She sees herself as a surrogate. She also wants us present at the hospital for the birth, as close as the doctors will allow. And most wonderfully, she wants our name that we pick for the baby, as well as our last name, to go on the birth certificate. This is a huge, wonderful, generous gift that truly speaks to the strength and character of her heart. I was touched, almost to the point of tears, when I heard this today. Unfortunately, our birth mom is still contracting and the meds aren't helping her much. If it gets much worse she will be hospitalized. Her doctor is really wanting her to make it to 34 weeks, which is a little less than a week and a half away. Jeez, this is happening so fast!
So, I bet you imagine that that I am busily cleaning out the eventually-this-will-be-a-baby-room room. And doing tons of shopping, researching and comparing baby products. And you probably figure I am busy googling and reading about how to actually care for a real live baby. Well, you are 100% completely wrong.
Instead, I am going nose to nose with moose; searching for the ever elusive bear sighting; traipsing across trails, hills and streams of nearly freezing water just to touch a real, live glacier; cruising around icebergs; and browsing through traditional native dwellings. What? All of this is in Arizona? No sillies, 'fraid not. We are here in Alaska, the last frontier, on a big family vacation. What timing, huh? We planned this trip to visit B's sister and her family months ago. We left dinner the other night with our birth parents and went directly to the airport, arriving here at 1:00 am. And here we will be for another week yet, hoping and praying and wishing that we don't get a call to rush back to the "lower 48". See? We are even starting to sound like the locals now. And get this, there seriously is not a big, giant famous baby store in the whole state. Just so you know, this is torture for a planner like me.
But still, B and I are enjoying ourselves and this really happy time. I'll be sure to share pictures after we return. Until then, I ask that you please share some of your "must have" baby items with me, because I seriously have no idea where to start.